Maybe you loved him. But did you ever stop to think that maybe you just loved being loved, or that it's possible you just liked the way a relationship made you feel.
If after the relationship ended you can solemnly admit that you didn't even really like him as a person, not in a spiteful way but in an honest way, then you should consider the possibility that you were just in love with the relationship.
Time and time again I've talked to friends, and recently analyzed myself, and I've found that by the end of the relationship I wasn't at all interested in being with him, and yet I still didn't want the relationship to end.
After it did inevitably end, I found myself missing being hugged, and told I was loved...unlike with other relationships where I'd missed the ex's actual personality. I noticed that I only missed the generic things that come with any relationship...In fact I didn't miss my ex at all, I missed how he made me feel...but when I actually thought about it, he wasn't my type, nor was he very interesting and we clearly didn't have chemistry. Yet I still found myself missing a dysfunctional relationship.
Missing an ex, and missing a relationship are two different things. When you miss an ex you miss personal things, such as his laugh, his smile, the way he smelled, and how you got along. When you miss a relationship you miss the generic things, being kissed, hugged, having someone to say goodnight to and vent to.
So if you think you miss an ex, before you contemplate revisiting the relationship, take a minute and really think about what you miss about it. Make a list of the attributes that you miss. Read it over and decide for yourself; are these traits I could find from any other possible love interest/relationship, or do I actually miss and want to be with this guy.
If after the relationship ended you can solemnly admit that you didn't even really like him as a person, not in a spiteful way but in an honest way, then you should consider the possibility that you were just in love with the relationship.
Time and time again I've talked to friends, and recently analyzed myself, and I've found that by the end of the relationship I wasn't at all interested in being with him, and yet I still didn't want the relationship to end.
After it did inevitably end, I found myself missing being hugged, and told I was loved...unlike with other relationships where I'd missed the ex's actual personality. I noticed that I only missed the generic things that come with any relationship...In fact I didn't miss my ex at all, I missed how he made me feel...but when I actually thought about it, he wasn't my type, nor was he very interesting and we clearly didn't have chemistry. Yet I still found myself missing a dysfunctional relationship.
Missing an ex, and missing a relationship are two different things. When you miss an ex you miss personal things, such as his laugh, his smile, the way he smelled, and how you got along. When you miss a relationship you miss the generic things, being kissed, hugged, having someone to say goodnight to and vent to.
So if you think you miss an ex, before you contemplate revisiting the relationship, take a minute and really think about what you miss about it. Make a list of the attributes that you miss. Read it over and decide for yourself; are these traits I could find from any other possible love interest/relationship, or do I actually miss and want to be with this guy.